There is no such
thing as a perfect relationship, for there will always come a time when things
change, fights and conflicts take place, and people end up parting ways. But as
a New Year starts, it is also the best time for you to start anew and bring a
fresher perspective to your relationship. Here, you will learn everything you
need to know to make sure that your relationship will turn out for the best and
become better and more wonderful for the next months and years.
The following are
the most basic but undoubtedly most important things that you have to keep in
mind when making relationship resolutions. Follow them and start creating the
best relationship ever! If you are just
like most of the couples today, chances are your previous year has been filled
with both good and bad things, happiness and sorrow, triumphs and conflicts.
With the start of another brand new year, why not take some time to finally say
goodbye and let go of all those not so good things that happened in your
relationships the previous year? For just a few minutes, sit down with your
partner and discuss the best ways that will help in making your current
relationship way better than before.
Forgiveness
is the Key
So that the two of
you will be able to move forward for the brand new year with a positive mind
frame, it is a must that you forgive and forget what happened in the past. If
you have long been nursing some hurt within you and you find it hard to forgive
your partner before, this is the perfect time to let things go and embrace the
concept of forgiving. Refusing to forgive can be similar to a poison
slowly but surely seeping through your whole being, filling with such
bitterness and eventually setting us a permanent wedge between the two of you.
When you forgive, it does not necessarily mean that you will condone the things
done by your partner. More importantly, forgiveness means that you have finally
come to peace with it in order for you to finally move forward.
Problem
Evaluation is a Must
Take time to
evaluate the biggest problems in your relationship. For some, this might be
lack of communication. For others, this can be finances and a myriad of other
issues. Discuss the problem and think of ways on how you can improve things.
Listen to the ideas of each another in order for the two of you to have your
equal share on the decision.
Change Good
for the Better
Talk about the
ways which can help in improving the already good things in your relationship. All
couples have their own strengths in their relationship. Discuss these things
and turn these into a validation that signifies that the two of you are doing
things right. Talk things out to make good things even better and make a vow
that you will never take for granted the good aspects of your relationship.
Talk About
Romance and Intimacy
When we speak of
romance, this should encompass your sex life. There is no denying that this is
an integral part of your relationship so make sure that you do not set this
aside. Laugh together and be playful about this. Come up with ways on how you
can make this part of your relationship better and happier.
Think of
Things to Look Forward to
Do you plan to buy
your own house this year or start a family? This New Year might be the best
time for you to start making some plans. Probably the two of you would like to
become fitter and healthier. You can do it together as this can be a fun way of
achieving a goal that you have set for yourself. Plan and cook meals together.
Go for stroll together and hold hands. No matter what plans you might have, at
the end of the day, having each other this New Year is the best gift that you
can give to your partner.
Take Care
Of Yourself First
There are some
people who end up forgetting about themselves once they become a part of a
relationship. However, for a relationship to work, it is important that both
parties know how to take care of one’s self for them to better take care of
each other. Discover the importance of taking care of yourself first before
anything else.
Self-Care
is the Key for a Better Relationship
Taking care of
yourself when in a relationship is as important as tending to the relationship
itself. It is a must that you take care of yourself prior to fixing your
relationship. Here, you can apply the old adage stating that you can never give
away things that you do not have. Until you feel happy and peaceful, you will
never have a happy and peaceful relationship. If you choose to skip such steps
and jump right away to your troubled relationship’s murky waters, chances are
you will be going straight down under. This is the reason why you need to do
everything in your power so that you can stabilize yourself prior to getting
this over your head. Prior to confronting the core issues of your relationship,
first, you need to follow the following steps in order to increase the chances
of being successful.
Stay With
Whatever Happens Along the Way
Promise to
yourself that you will still take care of yourself and remain okay whatever
will happen in your relationship. Once your happiness completely depends on
your partner being there by your side all the time, you will end up feeling
powerless and fearful. This will then mean that there is more likely that you
will be engaging in ineffective actions like pleading and begging. When this
happens more often, the less will your partner want to stick to the
relationship. Why is that? A good reason for this is that your partner will see
you as someone emotionally dependent and needy. The things that another person
will do for your sake will still be not enough for you because you will always
expect more from that person. It is something that will not escape your partner
and will make him/her fearful of being consumed and eaten up by your unending
demands for care and attention.
One more reason is
that it can be a real burden for one person to feel completely responsible for
another’s happiness. Majority of people feel the need of running away if this
is the case. The partner who tries to be everything to another will then feel
anger and resentment when place in this kind of demanding position, thus
snuffing out any sense of fun and playfulness that are vital to having an
enduring relationship.
When you respect
yourself and believe in your own capacity of thriving whether you are in a
relationship or single, you will surely come from a place full of strength and
empowerment. These two attributes can attract other people and provoke respect,
which will then make you a more desirable and lovable partner.
Commit to
Staying Happy
There is no need
for you to wait to plan some fun activities you can do on your own until you
get your relationship perfect. If you want, you can join classes where you can
learn interesting past times such as gourmet cooking, playing the guitar or
such. List down places in your area or others nearby that you plan to visit.
Learn brand new skills, brand out, and broaden your own personal world.
When you have fun
and stay active, you will feel much happier and even contented with yourself.
On top of that, this will make you more attractive to the eyes of your partner.
When you lead your own life with gusto, have a sense of adventure and take good
care of yourself, no matter what state your relationship might be in, you will
increase the likelihood of your partner wanting to spend more time with you.
Give Your
Partner the Benefit of the Doubt
Have you ever done
some stupid, dumb or hurtful things which greatly affected your partner?
Chances are almost all persons in this world have unintentionally or
intentionally hurt someone they love. In fact, research showed that a lot of
people will do anything hurtful to their partner in all long term
relationships.
All relationships
are bound to experience their own share of conflicts. Whether it is confusion,
misunderstandings or disagreements, if you know and have been with someone
pretty long enough, eventually, something will take place that will result to
tension. People will make you feel frustrated, angry, disappointed, hurt, or
upset. Your partner is human, just like you, so there is actually no way to get
around this. Once such situations happen, will you respond with anger or will
you give your partner the benefit of the doubt?
When you give
another person the benefit of the doubt, it only means that when you still lack
all the needed information, even in times of conflict, you will still be
willing to assume the best, set aside the negative judgment and respond in a
favourable way. Love itself can give the benefit of the doubt. It will
not make the mind filled with the negative assumptions. It will seek to work
its way around the difficult situations even after being proven wrong or
getting disappointed.
As stated in the
Bible, love is something that “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all
things, endures all things.” Love is not naive and instead, it gives the
benefit of the doubt. Love chooses to see the best in other people. You do not
just give this kind of benefit simply because you want to. More
importantly, you give your partner the benefit of the doubt because you choose
to and because you love. This act is selfless. So, how will you
successfully give your partner the benefit of the doubt? Think about it, and learn more about relationship here.
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